Traditionally, Pagans used this time of 12 months to depart choices of bread, fruits, and sweets outdoors their doorways to welcome the great spirits and ward away the unhealthy ones. This custom is why many individuals on this a part of the world now parade carved jack-o’-lanterns, serve sweet, and costume up in costume each October 31.

However the vacation is about a lot greater than Hollywood-style ghosts and a sugar buzz: It is about connecting to the spirits of those that have handed, our ancestors.

On that notice, collect across the proverbial campfire as a result of I’ve a narrative for you: Simply over a 12 months in the past, I felt compelled to go to England, to face within the place of my ancestry. I had by no means been, and I’ve by no means met my grandfather who was born there—however he had been round me in spirit for the previous couple of years.

After I say “round me,” I imply he was on my thoughts usually: Generally I would see him in goals; generally I would really feel drawn to ask my mother about him. Paradoxically, my estranged brother was additionally talking of going to England at the moment and had independently requested details about him too.

This is the cool half: I discovered via the grapevine (aka, my mother) that every one of us within the household had been watching a TV collection referred to as Poldark round this time. It is the story of a tin miner in Cornwall set again within the late 1800s. After I began to do my analysis on my grandfather, I discovered that this present was filmed within the precise parish he lived in. I had chills. It felt like he was calling the household again collectively by some means from past the grave. 

I went to this parish and stood on the rocky shores, noticed the crashing waves, the church buildings, the pub (in fact), and walked the highway and paths that our household walked. It turned out that my nice grandfather was born there, and the household goes again round 200 years on this place.

Flash-forward and that journey has significantly linked me to him, to England, and to a need to know and heal vis-à-vis ancestry in a household that doesn’t speak a lot concerning the previous.